(these are to give you a baseline)
1. Am I above reproach ? (one with a good reputation)
2. Am I dedicated to my spouse ? (with love and honor)
3. Am I temperate ? (balanced in my words and actions)
4. Am I prudent ? (being wise and discerning)
5. Am I respectable ? (a good role model, Christ like)
6. Am I hospitable ? (demonstrating unselfishness and generosity)
7. Am I able to teach others ? (communicating in a nonthreatening way)
8. Am I given to substance abuse ? (addicted or struggling with them)
9. Am I self-willed ? (self-centered or controlling)
10. Am I quick-tempered ? (easily angered)
11. Am I pugnacious ? (an abusive person, verbally and or physically)
12. Am I contentious ? (argumentative or divisive)
13. Am I gentle ? (sensitive and kind)
14. Am I free from the love of money ? (materialistic)
15. Do I manage my own home well ? (I honor God as a good spouse and parent, my family's finances are on track and our outlook is good)
16. Do I have a good reputation ? (inside and outside of church)
17. Do I love what is good ? (pursuing godly activities)
18. Am I just ? (wise, discerning, non-prejudiced and fair)
19. Am I devout ? (growing my faith)
20. Am I a mature, disciplined Christian ? (helping where I can, and in pursuing the purpose that God has enabled me for)