For so many, it can mean many different things. Love of family, of country, of our faith or just of one special person. Sometimes, we can have a wrong view of love. This week's Fourteenth trail: "Why Love is Better Than Sex" is focused on one aspect that we all could probably learn from. I'll share some highlights from what we learned as follows. Let us know if you have any comments, questions or recommendations. Here goes.
First, why do men too often confuse sex with love? If we don't have a strong sense of self (a strong core), we can fall into the trap of sexual fantasies, with an overemphasis on our sexual performance and lusts. Which can lead us into wondering - what is it about love that we don't get (would you agree to these)?
That giving is not based on receiving and our love is not dependent on another loving us back.
Second, know that 'love skills' are good to understand and to leverage. How best to do so is up to you - just don't take these lightly (you will be pleased to see how these will help you). For example, consider. . .
Listening = really listen and value your loved one by suspending your judgment of them).
Attention = make your relationship a priority, pursue what is good for your loved one and invest your time.
Respect = appreciate your loved one, judge fairly, confront humbly and respond graciously.
Genuineness = share your heart openly and express honestly who you are to your loved one.
Energy = move toward your loved one and show a willingness to be involved in all aspects of their life.
Communications = make sure you hear your loved on and they hear you (ensure understandings).
Affection = take your relationship further as she is willing and know that saying "I love you" is goodness.
Responsibility = be obligated to your loved one; think, plan and do those things that are helpful.
Empathy = take off "your shoes", put on "their shoes" and let them know you are trying to understand.
Yes, all the above is 'the tip of the iceberg' as they say in regards to love. The words shared are to give all of us K/21s some things to ponder and then to pursue where aspects are needed. And don't forget, if you would like more details on the above or would like to address other aspects on the 'challenges of love', just let us know. We'll try to help share information wherever we best can. |